Definitely! I think I am reacting so strongly to it as I hated all the snippy fights online about what is goth in the late 90s.

I am going to approach it calmly once the opportunity presents itself but I have been telling my daughter over and over, no one gets to define you but you.

ETA: I will admit, my wife and I were ready to start sending him links to Bauhaus and Sisters of Mercy and the Damned as ask where all the piercing were.